What are your limits?

Limits are kinks that you will not engage in.

Determining your limits can be complicated for newcomers. BDSM without discussion of a scene can be dangerous, therefore it is important to make your limits clear to your partner. Detailed limits will properly prepare your partner. 

For example, my limits include but are not limited to:

Switching or subbing. Nonconsensual and illegal activity including kidnapping. Public play. Intoxication. Scat. Racial Humiliation. Blackmail. Diapers/Nappies. Age Regression. Humiliating Feminisation. Roman & Ruby Shower. Wrestling.

Limits are very personal depending on what you are comfortable with and your experience level. This takes thought and research. For some, bondage may seem like a fairly common practice in BDSM and for others, it can be restrictive and frightening to allow someone this much access to your body. The intensity and trust you give a Domme is a sliding scale and limits can evolve, change, or vary depending on the context. 

Even with the proper communication, there are times when either the Dominant or submissive can feel overwhelmed which is why a safeword is necessary especially with a new partner. You should never feel embarrassed or unable to use your safeword. A common practice is using YELLOW as a way to indicate, I am getting close to using my safeword and RED as a complete stop to a scene which should be promptly followed by aftercare.

In a perfect relationship, a submissive would not have any limits because they would trust me to have their best interest in mind.